Conquering Your Child's
Fears of the Unknown 

Does your child exhibit any of these experiences?

• Speaks to someone you don't see!
• Sees a monster in the closet!
• Hears messages you can't hear!
  

When I was 15, I woke up every night for a year fearing the monsters in my closet. My family didn't see what I saw. At first they comforted me. Then they told me there was nothing there and to go to sleep. After waking them ten times, they began to get annoyed, angry and told me to stop it. I wished I could. If only my parents had understood, I wouldn't have been so frightened and developed  so many fears.

When a client comes to my office now, about her child having one of these experiences, I ask if the child gets upset when these things happen... what time  of day do these experiences most often occur and where? Is that area colder - different than the rest of the house? Is the child reluctant to play there? Like a psychic detective I search for clues. I want to know if the child's experience is based on a spirit connection. Does the child have friends, other interests, and a vivid imagination?

If the answers were yes to the above, I'd ask more questions: have you always lived in this house… did you lose a loved one recently…when did your child begin to have these experiences? Is there a connection?

If the child appears normal, I assume he or she is having a ghost encounter and offer methods to remedy the situation. Here is one example.

"My four year old son won't sleep in his room, says there's a monster in his closet. He screams if we try to put him into his bed. For the past month he's been falling asleep on the couch watching TV."

"Is he afraid to go into his bedroom during the day?"

"No. He goes in to get dressed and play with his toys."

"How does he spend his days?"

"He's usually an easygoing child, affectionate and bright. Likes to throw balls into a basketball hoop, though he is a fussy eater and could use a little extra weight."

"Do you think there's a monster in his closet?"

"I'm beginning to think I'm nuts. I try not to be influenced by my son, but  whenever I go near the closet, I get cold and afraid."

Fear begets fear I thought. "Have you and your husband checked the closet for why it's so cold?"

"We have and can't find any reason for the cold. His closet is on the other side of our bedroom wall, which is a lot warmer. The rest of his room is warm and cozy."

I began to make a list in my mind. The little boy sees someone no one else sees, which makes him more afraid.

Cold spots: ghosts are cold because they don't have a physical body.

Watching TV prevented the ghost from getting the little boy's attention. Ghosts prefer to visit during the dark of the night. No distractions. Other than this one irrational fear, the boy appeared rational.

"I suspect your son is having a ghostly encounter. Are you willing to work  with me to check out my theory?"

"What do I have to do?" she said with tears in her eyes.

"Try not to be afraid. Fear fades when you think love. Think, I love my fear. I love my son. I trust me."

Her breathing slowed and her shoulders relaxed.

"Imagine your house and how much you love the people who live with you. Love is the greatest protection you have. Trust it. Now close your eyes as you and I travel through time and space to where you live."

I watched her tighten up. "Relax. I'm here to help you. Imagine walking into your kitchen, then your living room and lastly your son's bedroom. Think like a mother bear. 'No one will harm my son while I'm around.'

"Look into your son's closet. What do you sense?"

"It makes no sense, but I can see another little boy - not my son. He isn't solid like you and me, more like a sheer person. He's crying for his mother. He's afraid. I want to help him. What should I do?"

"Does he see you?"

"I think so. He's looking at me."

"Tell him his mother's looking for him too. Tell him to imagine his mother."

"He did and now he's smiling. I can see a woman next to him. She looks like me, blond hair, and blue eyes. She's crying now. She's picking up her son and nodding to me, like she's thanking me."

"Tell her to turn around and walk into the light."

"She's doing it. I see them walking into the light together. I feel so happy."

"Imagine your home filling with white light. Then imagine white light filling your son, your husband, your other child and you. Affirm that only people with white light energies will come into your home. And when you are finished, say aloud, "it is done." Then open your eyes."

"That was incredible. I feel free for the first time. Thank you."

"It's important that you stay free of fear when something unknown is around. Love the unknown. Find out what it wants to tell you. Then make a decision about what to do.

"Young children are open to all experiences; spiritual and physical. Telling them to stop being afraid doesn't work. Lovingly helping them by talking and listening is the way to healing. May you all always walk the path of love and light."